Valentine’s Day – a day set aside for loving and sharing with that special person in your life. Well that sounds good – we can all use a bit of that in our lives - if it’s available of course. That’s if we have someone to love and share with, if we want to love and share and if we know how to love and share. But what does love and sharing mean to you? Is it giving roses, chocolates, treating them to the cinema or a meal out in a favourite restaurant?
Or maybe it’s a walk, time for reflection, a revisit to somewhere romantic with that someone special?
The origin of this celebrations dates back to the days of the Roman Empire. So why after all this time does it still spell happiness for some while loneliness for others? Why are so many people stressed out and unhappy 2000 years later? Doesn’t everyone have someone special to share Feb 14th with? Well no, it seems not. Rather like Christmas, Valentine ’s Day is as good as the company we share it with ... right?
Great when it works, a letdown when it doesn’t. But what if they don’t exist? Or are unavailable? Or irritating when they are around! Maybe even a miserable so and so because they forgot, or worse were not interested! Sorry that’s not very romantic but remember this is Valentines, the alternative!
At PS Life Can Be Easy, we help people to have the best relationships possible in their lives, not only with others but also with themselves. If we “like” and accept ourselves first, i.e. be happy, fulfilled and successful in all that we do, we are much more likely to be able to love and share with others more easily and effectively.
So how do we become happy, fulfilled and successful in all that we do? Sounds a good ticket yea? Well, just as love and sharing is the theme for Valentine’s Day, we can love and share with ourselves too, every day.
E.g. Quality time = Quality days = quality feelings inside = quality of life!
Isn’t quality of life what we are all seeking? How do you think our Valentine partners would prefer us? Individuals WITH a quality of life or individuals SEEKING a quality of life? One is a reality, the other an unfulfilled aspiration. Bit of a no brainer isn’t it? The more we create for ourselves, the more we have to offer others and usually as a result, receive back in return.
Health and energy, disposable income, happy and fulfilled free hearts. This is what we help people find for themselves at PS LCBE. And as a result, they become more likely to attract like minded individuals, be all they can be, live life like they’d like to live and succeed in all that they do.
So how was Valentine ’s Day for you? With or without a partner? Did you get the chance to love and share with a.n.other...if not did you make the time to love and share with yourself? We are all brought up to believe that putting ourselves first is selfish, when in fact finding happiness and contentment within ourselves has several loving benefits for everyone:
1) We don’t need a significant other to feel self confident within ourselves. That’s a commitment we can make to ourselves
2) When we do meet them we have much more to offer them – and in turn ourselves too
3) The relationship will be more enjoyable, rewarding and meaningful when we do
4) For those of us already in successful and happy relationships (I’ve been married for 23 years) they can only be better, richer and longer lasting as a result. Trust me, I should know.
At 53 years (I was a slow learner!) I used to think loving and sharing was all about giving. Well it is and I still do, but I now realise it is about giving to myself too so that I have more of the good stuff to give and share with others. I am talking patience, love and understanding here. By giving all of this patience, love and understanding to ourselves first, i.e. less self judgement, living in fear or worrying about the unlikely etc, we build our self esteem as a lover, parent, friend, sibling and child, not to mention friend, neighbour, colleague etc.
So when we think of Valentine’s day we can focus on the romantic partner. But we can also focus on ourselves by taking care of our health, financial security and relationships with others in life. By doing this you will be sharing with yourself, have more time to share with others and will receive more back in return. Who was it that said “Love makes the world go round”?
Brilliant for you, your existing partner and brilliant for the partner who you are about to meet as a result! It’s a win win situation. And if you are seeking that special someone, try this. You will soon find them! And if not, you are an even happier individual than you were before.
Now that can’t be a bad deal – for anyone!
